A lot more people than you’d think are into BDSM scenarios and fantasies than you’d imagine. This didn’t all start with the 50 Shades of Grey books, it’s always been around, simmering under the surface. Books like that have just helped it come more into the foreground of public awareness, but it’s always been there. Nine and a Half Weeks in the 1980’s was a mainstream movie that also brought such ideas to the public.
No longer were things like handcuffs and blindfolds and spankings only practiced by the fringes of society in most people’s minds. Maybe the neighbors were doing it, maybe your siblings were doing it with their spouses, you didn’t know. Maybe you didn’t even want to know. Sexual liberation and more permissive attitudes have only continued over the last decades. No longer is oral sex or masturbation the taboo that it was. Now BDSM activities are getting their time in the sun as a fun way you can broaden your horizons with your partner and develop more trust within your relationship. Since most times the activities like blindfolding, tying up your partner, etc., do require more trust.
These are not activities you’d be doing with someone while having a one night stand with someone in most cases. You need to feel comfortable with your partner and trust them to a degree to allow yourself to be vulnerable with them and entrust your safety to them. It can deepen a relationship to do these kinds of activities that require that level of trust. Some will never have it or be comfortable with it, others might in time.
