Sometimes the fantasy of meeting someone we have connected with sexually online can seem a heady one. I’ve talked to people on both sides of this, some have worked out beautifully, others were a disaster. Others yet fell through because one of the people changed their mind. So the “what might have been” tragedy will forever live on in the mind of the one that was stood up.
We often build up a fantasy of what the other person is really like, even though we may have seen their pics and heard them cum dozens of times over literally years. One gal told me you can’t really be in love with someone until you’ve stood toe to toe with them, and I do see the value in such a statement. It is hard to let go of the dream of the perfect person we have built up in our minds that we have played with so often on the phone or on cam and think we’d get along with so wonderfully. Reality sadly might be very different, and once one of the partners crosses that there’s no going back. Some may not want to really meet and one pushes it that does, it often sadly shatters and can never be made right again.
Sometimes fantasy is better than reality, and some things are best left in that realm. We all fantasize about things, but do we REALLY want them? Many women have a rape fantasy, that doesn’t mean they really wish to be raped, it’s just a fantasy with no hope of being reality, that’s what makes it appealing, there’s no consequences for a fantasy the way real life has. It’s a safe exploration into our more creative and darker sides.
